We have come to the end of the “Secrets and Lies” entries, and this one is a shorter one, but if I have left out anything strange that you noticed, hopefully you will share those lies in the comments. If you missed the first five “Secrets and Lies” installments, you can read them here: Part One, Part Two, Part Three, Part Four and Part Five
I know that the average person isn’t as near-lunatic in their desire to crunch on details as I am, but even the most laid-back approach to truth should find appalling the number of weird situations, errors, inconsistencies and lies in Razing Ruth. But I hope this look at all the lies shows how easy it is for an unscrupulous person to trick people. Lies spread out over time combined with a pitiful and compelling narrative almost force decent people to overlook the obvious. And while I don’t recommend that we all begin tearing apart every blog entry we read for signs of lying (because it’s an exhausting way to go through life, mainly), once a person learns the basics of how those engaged in Munchausen by Internet operate, it becomes so much easier to see one coming and avoid it.
So let’s finish this up. Let’s get to the last lies of Ruth.
Hands up! Who’s met Ruth?
Anyone? Anywhere? Nope.
I have done nothing but eat, breathe and sleep Chris Izer-B* and Razing Ruth for a while now. I have not had anyone who met Ruth contact me. I come across a comment from anyone who both exists and could verify her identity. Ruth insisted frequently that she had revealed her identity to a handful of people. No one has ever revealed that they know who she is, even just to verify that Ruth was telling the truth about confiding in someone.
When Ruth solicited help throughout her blog, she never accepted help that was not cash. No hand-me-down clothes for her or Rachel, no furniture, no goods, no food, not even direct legal help. Every single person who offered help that was not money was turned down or ignored. She was offered legal help when Rachel was thinking about adoption and it appears e-mails were exchanged with some of her readers, but no one can say for sure Ruth used any of the contacts offered to her.
No one knew who she was. No one. Except maybe Vyckie Garrison and she isn’t talking, and given the vicious and senseless push-back I have seen in regards to the Razing Ruth situation, I don’t know if I blame her. Still wish she’d talk, though.
Chris liked to pepper Ruth’s story with comments that supposedly proved her connection to ATI and Gothard without spelling anything out. All of the comments were vague and were left by people whose identity could not be proven. Remember “Hannah” who said Ruth’s father was using her as a cautionary tale via an e-mail Ruth posted part of on her blog? Well, she helped a bit, but she didn’t help as much as “Gretchen.” Gretchen may be real, though I don’t think she is. If she was, she presented Ruth with verisimilitude on a golden platter.
Did you know there’s a picture of your family in the Duggar home slideshow? It looks like an older picture but you’re not in it so it can’t be too old. Go look.
Gretchen clarifies where to look. She directs people to a slide show on the TLC Duggar page and says she saw Ruth’s family’s picture on the 22nd slide (tlc.howstuffworks.com/home/duggar-home-pictures.htm). No way to prove Gretchen is a sock puppet but Gretchen’s comment has no information linked to it and the comment does two things: first, it makes it seem as if there is someone out there who knows Ruth’s family and therefore gives credence to Ruth’s claims of both belonging to an ATI family and that the family was close to the Duggars; and second, it brings people rallying to poor Ruth’s defense because it looks like someone is trying to out her. But the end result of such a comment was to bolster Ruth’s stories and I would not be surprised if it was a sock puppet account. I certainly can’t prove it is, but I can’t prove it isn’t, either.
When the story that Ruth is a fake took hold, some people on Free Jinger spent a significant amount of time piecing together all of the families in those TLC pictures, and they found a family they thought could be Ruth’s family of origin. I cannot emphasize enough that Ruth is a fake. The fact is that Chris Izer-B* likely found and read about some families to serve as inspiration. I bet people can find a handful whose stories seem similar. If you want to knock yourselves out analyzing all those families and try to make Chris Izer-B*’s lies apply to one of them, feel free. But do not, for the love of sanity, discuss it here. As repellent as I find ATI/Quiverfull, the families on that TLC slideshow do not deserve being mentioned in Chris’ frauds. I’ll edit any entries that mention a specific family’s name.
It happens again on 2/17/13, wherein Ruth again copies from an e-mail she supposedly received from a reader called Brandywine. “Brandywine” asked the following, and Ruth answered:
Mary, I’ve been addicted to your story since someone pointed me to it ten days ago. I think I’m caught up. I have a question or two if you don’t mind. I was a Gothard kid, too. Homeschooled and ATIed. Were you the xxxxxxxxxxx family that used to live in NW Arkansas? We may have stayed with you once. Were you gone by 1995 because I remember you if you are that family? You were maybe 11 or 12? What happened to your rabbit?” Brandywine Yes. That was us. I remember your first name. Glad to see you got out of that too. You should go over to freejinger and tell your story. If YOU are who I think you are, your story is better. You’re living a great life from what I hear. The rabbit was eaten.
Too bad we have no chance of verifying Brandywine. Like Gretchen and Hannah before her, she is untraceable. Despite these moments wherein it looks like maybe someone knows who Ruth is in real life, no one who makes these claims has ever been able to be verified as being a real human being and therefore I assume they are sock puppets. Ruth claimed over the years that people knew who she was and that was a complete lie. No one knows what she told Vyckie Garrison but as of this writing, I have found not a single person to whom Ruth might have confided her identity.
I’m Ruth-tired so I’m just going to lay out some other problems with uncharacteristic brevity.
-Ruth says on 5/15/13 that the job in Chicago is only going to pay her a bit more than she is making working two jobs. She then states on 5/16/13 that the job will pay a bit under $14 an hour. Admittedly, she would not have had a high standard of living but it is hard to understand how it is that Ruth could not have maintained an apartment or rented space for her travel trailer on the equivalent of $13 per hour per a 40 hour week. Yes, that was spread out over two jobs, but assuming a two week vacation, that’s still $26K a year before taxes. She couldn’t survive on that? No roommates if it was tight?
-Whatever happened to her leg? She injured herself taking care of those boys and she says she needed a CT scan but it is never followed up on but she is able to go to Harris’ family reunion and walk around Disneyland less than eight weeks later. She mentions nothing about renting a wheelchair, something that Chris Izer-B* is not averse to doing, and if Ruth had done such a thing she would have mentioned it. So how’d she walk? How did we miss that?
-The whole “got kicked off the land where I sat my trailer for free because someone stole stuff from the landlord and I was forced to sell my trailer and live in my car” scenario was… well, I don’t even know. I have Ruth fatigue. Discuss it wildly amongst yourselves if you are so inclined.
-Same thing with the twisted ovary. Most women need about two weeks off work after an ovary removal, even dealing with laprascopic surgery, but everyone is different, I guess. By that point in the narrative I would not have been surprised if Ruth had needed a complete brain transplant and surgery to correct undescended testes.
-So, when Ruth fled her family and ran to a neighbor for help, the courts just let the neighbors keep her until she was of age? And they agreed to it? The family was willing to take in a teenager and raise her because that was the porch Ruth landed on when she fled? And then the family more or less just never spoke to her again or helped her in any manner once she moved away? Yeah, that sounds funny to me, too. I note that is the last entry Ruth wrote for No Longer Quivering. I also note that Ruth failed to spell consistently the pseudonym she gave her rescuers. Nothing lie-like in that. I’m just feeling a little punch drunk and felt like mentioning it.
-The psych evaluation to change her name legally is almost funny because… why would Chris Izer-B* think anyone would need a psychiatric evaluation to change their legal name? Why would she lie about something so easily disproved? Did she just get a carried away with her story? I checked with the state of California’s site and no one needs a psych evaluation before changing one’s name. Have a look for yourself. But mostly this is interesting because we will be discussing Chris Izer-B* in terms of psychiatric evaluations in the near future. She tends to write about things that are looming in her mind. But even so, this one was a head-scratcher.
-People tracked her down at a campsite in Utah as she was traveling to Chicago and that was less upsetting than someone she supposedly had met coming to work and checking up on her? How could someone track a person down at a campsite if they had no idea what she looked like? What if there had been several cars with California plates? Would they just harass every single woman who was traveling alone until they found her?
So we’re at the end of “Secrets and Lies.” If y’all find some interesting lies I missed, I’ll add links to the comments in this entry. I’ll have my next two Ruth entries up as soon as I can but I have an “interesting” weekend coming up that involves foundation repair and cleaning up all the dust that such a procedure creates. It may be a week or so before my next post depending on interesting the weekend proves to be. But I will be working on finishing off the Ruth story as much as I reasonably can. I’m ready to move on to the madness of Possummomma, Penn Mommy, Scarlett75 and Jhawksgirl. And, as it seems, many more alters of Chris Izer-B*.