I’m going to knock out the remaining e-mails wherein Chris talks crap about her divorce to her friends. Much of it is the same old, same old, but keep your eyes peeled for the last e-mail in this entry. In that e-mail Chris shows how craven a liar she really is.
We continue onward in our look at the mass e-mails Chris sent out to various people, documenting her strange lies about her life and the campaign of character assassination she waged against her now ex-husband. Let’s just dive right into another of the e-mails Isabelle sent to me.
———- Forwarded message ———-
From: Chris B* <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Date: Thu, Feb 12, 2009 at 10:39 PM
Subject: Another update
To: [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], email@example.com, firstname.lastname@example.org, [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted], [redacted]
Tomorrow my beautiful baby girl (the oldest) turns fourteen! It doesn’t really seem possible. She had oral surgery Tuesday (in prep for braces) and her biggest wish is to be able to eat some pizza at her party tomorrow night.
Once again, I owe some of you apologies. I’ve sucked at getting back to people this month. I had to stop and ask myself why I don’t have time to talk to people. The answer is that I’m doing the same things I’ve always done,…but now the subject matter everyone wants to discuss is so sensitive that there’s never a “good time” while the kids are around. It may be my undoing (and those who know me know this was my position with Jeff) but I won’t talk badly of Mike when the kids are near. Given that I don’t have many kind things to say about him…
He’s still playing games. It seems to run in a strange cycle of activity. He generally saves the major games until the night he collects the kids for visitation. He knows me well enough to know that sitting here alone is my most vulnerable time. This evening for example, I’m told that my EX-IN LAWS will be coming to take him to lunch on Saturday (with the kids of course) for P1′s birthday. These would be the same people I spent eleven years ensuring a grandparent-grandchild relationship with despite having no real legal reason or obligation toward doing so. Mike let P1 tell me tonight and when I asked why he wouldn’t have brought that up when I asked him if we could do a dinner out for the kids for Valentine’s Day, he said “I thought P1 would tell you.” P1 claims she had no knowledge of the details or meeting. Games, games, games…
His other hobby is to take little things out of the house that leave me scratching my head. My whisk disappeared and I found out that Mike swiped it. Seriously, people! A whisk? The stereo disappeared after P1s surgery. A few of P4 and P3′s toys went bye-bye on the day I had a doctor’s appointment. A photo album was rifled on another day (in the forty minutes I was picking up P4). Of course Mike claims he doesn’t know anything about the pictures being removed from the scrapbook…I guess we have roving felons who are interested in pictures of P4 and P3′s infancy. Right. You would think it’s legal to put different locks on but it’s not (or so I’m told).
I’m just tired of it. A friend gave me a book about mentally abusive relationships and I’m shocked to see how many of the criteria fit. I never saw myself as a victim. Now with hindsight, I see that Mike had an immense amount of control in our lives (keeping ALL the finances secret and giving me “allowances”; telling people I was not available to talk when I was; taking power away from me parentally by making unilateral decisions and asking the kids to keep it “secret”; trying to make me think I was crazy and needed a psychiatrist; demanding my e-mail passwords while not reciprocating willingly or at all; leaving important information until the last minute and feigning amnesia about telling me). In a way, I thought he was being a more involved father and husband. It makes you think…how could I not see it for so long?
Love to all,
My long-suffering husband reads all of these entries before I post them. He helps me catch the more glaring grammar and syntax errors and, because I am given to strange logic leaps at times, he makes sure my articles here flow with something approaching clarity. He asked me, after we finished the previous entry, why it was I was posting the e-mails Isabelle had forwarded to me. He wasn’t asking me in an accusatory, “Why on Earth are you wasting time on this?” sort of way. He was just curious as to what I was hoping to accomplish.
This may be the sole time I am doing anything on this site with an eye to a higher goal. I know, I know, the mission of this site is to have a clearinghouse for all the Chris-related scam/lie/financial fraud information. That’s all well and good, but make no mistake – if I didn’t enjoy writing these entries, tracking down information, sorting through the very interesting and often sordid details of Chris’ life, I wouldn’t be doing this. At best this is a symbiotic relationship – I find Chris interesting and write entries about her, and this blog stands to help other people who were taken in by Chris’ ruses.
But when I read those e-mails, I realized that there is a substantial swathe of people who knew Chris and Michael who likely believe all of the nonsense Chris claimed. They may think him the worst sort of adulterer, a man who would stalk his sick wife online after sleeping with her best friend. They think him the sort of man who would abandon a gravely ill wife (who had a miraculous recovery after he filed for divorce, curiously) and lie about her in order to gain custody of the children. They may think Chris is the victim and that Michael was needlessly cruel, subjecting Chris to financial privations while alienating her from her family.
There is nothing I can do with this site to prevent Chris from continuing to be the woman we all know her to be. At best, people will find her again in another ruse and I will write about it, but there is little any of us can do to prevent the wrongs Chris will do or help much to mitigate the harms she has done. But I can reproduce those awful e-mails so that in the event that one of the people who received them ever find this site, they will know. I don’t have anything vested in proving that Michael B* is not the psychopathic monster that Chris insisted he was to various friends but it does offend my sense of justice that a man who obviously did his best by his family could be so casually and cruelly slandered. Like I said before, there are two sides to every divorce and Michael B* likely has plenty of short-comings. But he didn’t deserve the character assassination this known-liar, known-scammer and known-fraudster waged behind the scenes with family friends, neighbors and online acquaintances.
There is a viciousness to these e-mails that show what Chris is all about and it explains why some of the people in her life who have offered to speak to me about their experiences with her insist on anonymity. They likely already knew what these e-mails proved in spades – when angered or crossed, Chris will stop at nothing to smear people. In these messages, Chris shows her real self and it’s a nasty picture, and it annoys me that anyone may believe the terrible things Chris says about people who anger her or upset her.
With that out of the way, let’s look at another e-mail from our charming Chris.
We discussed details about Chris’ divorce proceedings way back when we were talking about Ruth. The divorce records online painted an interesting picture. Her ex-husband filed for divorce and during the beginning of the proceedings, he and Chris more or less had equal access to the children, and Chris remained in the family home. As time went on, Chris began to lose ground. Michael B* was given the family home and Chris ordered to move out. A year after her psychological evaluation, Chris’ access to the children began to be whittled away to the point that Michael B* was given permission to move all four children to Chicago. His support obligations were lowered and, though Chris was given generous visitation during the summer and holidays, people have told me her two eldest children want nothing to do with her. None of this points to Chris being a great mother.
Even though I know Chris is one of the biggest liars ever to lie, it must be said that every divorce has two sides. I naturally have a lot of sympathy for Michael B* but even the most angelic person has his or her bad points. However, I can tell you that the only bad thing anyone has ever said to me about Michael B* is that he was briskly efficient, bordering on administrative, in his divorce from Chris. He is a business school professor and knows a lot about human resources and I have no doubt that he used the skills that a boss would use to document a failing employee and applied them to getting out of his marriage. To be perfectly blunt, if that is the case, I cannot blame him for taking that approach and it was all the better he did it because, when dealing with a person as manipulative as Chris, you need to have copious notes and all your records in order.
But that’s it. That’s the sole bad thing I have been told about Michael B*. In this ocean of dysfunction, the only bad thing anyone could say about him was that he was efficient and bloodless in terminating his marriage. Even Chris herself sang his praises as an excellent husband on Splitcoaststampers until he filed for divorce. Moreover, as we looked at elements of Chris’ life, we learned that Michael adopted Chris’ two children from her first marriage and that they prefer living with him and a new stepmother to living with Chris. We discovered that Chris spent a large chunk of her life online, stealing, scheming and making up outrageous stories, leaving her little time to be an effective mother. Chris began to function mostly at night, sleeping through the day, and had little contact with her children. People whose children went to school with Chris’ kids reported that before the divorce, they never saw Chris dropping the kids off or coming to school functions. They only saw Michael. People also reported that when Chris had her children during the time when she and Michael had joint custody, the kids often came to school dressed in dirty clothes or clothes inappropriate for the season, and looking very unkempt.
I say all of this so it is clear that I am approaching this entry with a bias in favor of Michael B*. Using Chris’ own reports of Michael, the court’s decision to give him full-time custody of the kids, the kids’ own ambivalence and possible antipathy toward their mother, and the mountains of evidence that Chris is, at best, rather disturbed, it was going to be hard for me to read the e-mails I plan to discuss here and not think them all complete garbage. When I factor in things other people who knew the family have told me, it’s hard to accept anything Chris claims in these e-mails.
I am still working on the next entry so look for it Monday. As usual, I’ve had interesting developments occur in the middle of writing. I think the next entry about the e-mails “Isabelle” sent me is going to be very interesting, hopefully with visual aids. We’ll see.
Until then, check this out. A young woman named Amanda documented her diagnosis with brain cancer and her attempts to live her life to the fullest in the remaining few months she had left. It was all very uplifting, except there is no proof Amanda ever existed. I found most interesting the research the author put in to try to run Amanda the Goth with Brain Cancer to ground, but I also found it timely because one of the e-mails Isabelle forwarded to me include a claim from Chris that she was coping with a potential brain cancer scare in 2013. Of course she was. Just add it to the list. Also amusing to me is that Amanda was no better than Chris at creating convincing medical details.
Use this entry to discuss the above article, or anything you want. Books, television, the weather. Doesn’t have to be on topic about frauds or Chris.
As I was working on the analysis of the UV-screen fundraiser that netted Chris thousands of dollars for a physical condition she doesn’t have, I was contacted by a former friend of Chris’. This friend, whom I will call Isabelle, reads over on FreeJinger but has been very busy over the last few months. She logged into FJ for the first time in a while and saw the announcement about Razing Ruth. Because FJ doesn’t permit Chris’ name to be used, she had no idea the fraudster was her old friend until she found this blog.
Appalled, she did what so many others who know Chris have done – she pieced back over her friendship with Chris, linked together all those times when things just seemed a bit strange, and realized that she too had been used by Chris. I have thoroughly vetted this woman and, because she has children, I am going to protect her identity because I respect her need to protect her family. However, as I share some of the things she told me and the e-mails Chris sent her, I think we will all be able to cross off the list some of the questions we have had about the inspiration for Chris’ lies, like her claims of being an archaeologist and some of the origins of her tales as Ruth.
Before I discuss what Isabelle had to tell me about her online and real life interactions with Chris, I want to begin with the e-mails Isabelle forwarded to me. For reasons known only to her, Chris decided it would be fitting to send out mass e-mails to her friends, explaining why it was she was innocent in the Penn Mommy scandal, how her previously amazing husband, the man she sung the praises of on Splitcoaststampers, had become the biggest bastard of all time once he filed for divorce. These e-mails are a fabulous example of how Chris is always the victim and that people will engage in all sorts of skullduggery and inexplicable acts of malice in order to tarnish her good name.
Before I begin in earnest, I want to address the fact that I am going to be reproducing, with name redactions, e-mails that Chris sent to her friends. There is something in me even now that gives me pause when I consider that I am going to reproduce e-mails that Chris sent with the notion that no one would ever reveal the contents. But I overcame this moral squeamishness on the following grounds:
- When you send out the most intimate details of your life in the form of a mass e-mail wherein you don’t even bother to protect the e-mails of the people you send it to, if your message is shared with others, you don’t really have a moral leg to stand on (and yeah, I now have the means to contact a couple of people whom I’m certain Chris lied to or harmed in some manner, so thanks for being so slapdash, Chris!).
- A mass e-mail by it’s very nature has no expectation of privacy. You expect privacy when you e-mail your best friend with your troubles. Not so much when you cc half the people in your address book.
- When your e-mails are full of lies about other people or are created to shelter you from the well-deserved fall-out you might experience from pretending to be a woman with a dead son on a Gosselin forum, your bad intentions cancel your right to privacy as you engage in your bad intentions.
- People who realize that they have been lied to and their lives exploited for your online life of lies and scams have the right to share with whomever they want the evidence of your perfidy. Chris likes to make herself the victim in every regard of her life. She is not a victim – her family, her friends and countless people online are the victims. Some may sympathize with Chris when I reveal her heap o’lies via e-mail but I will have little patience for such sentiments.
The e-mails Isabelle sent me cover the time frames of 2008 through 2013, and the people Chris sent them to varied from e-mail to e-mail. I will be redacting the names of people who have never been mentioned on this site or who have asked that I keep their names out of this mess. Other names I will leave in there because they have come up already as being friends of Chris’ and have commented on this site, or because they are public figures and their names and e-mail addresses are already well-known in the blogosphere.
I want to begin with Chris’ attempts behind the scenes to tell her friends that she was really a victim in the Penn Mommy saga, that she really did have a distant cousin who came and stayed with her for weeks and inexplicably decided to ruin her good name by using Chris’ IP address, hacking her computer and dragging her into a mess she had nothing to do with, really, she didn’t! For those who need a refresher in the Penn Mommy mess, here’s my discussion of all the details.
By Wednesday at the latest, I will have some new entries up. I’ve got some fact checking to do before they’re ready.
I wanted to clear up that I didn’t feel persecuted when I mentioned someone on GOMI likened to me Javert. Quite the opposite. I like GOMI. For every bit of petty snark, there’s genuine criticism and chances for bloggers to see where they are making a mess. I am unsure about the Javert thing but I admit to being obsessive. I also took to heart the accusations that I was sort of bitchy over some of the interactions here and apologized in the appropriate thread.
But I don’t feel slighted by GOMI comments and wasn’t defending myself here – just sort of reacting out loud. I’ve said in the past that some controversial bloggers should have the common sense to read GOMI comments and see if they make sense. If the negative criticisms make sense, then why not act on them and make a blog a better place. Not all comments over there are worth reflecting on but some are and bloggers are fools when they scoff at all unfiltered reactions to their “craft.” GOMI, in addition to being hilariously fun and an excellent waste of time on slow days at work, can also be a tool for the self-aware blogger.
And it was pretty interesting to consider the Javert angle, whether or not it panned out. ;) I’ve never been likened to a Hugo character before. When comparisons come, it’s mostly to cartoon characters. So I’m coming up in the world!
See you all soon, Wednesday at the latest.
TAR readers, I beg your forgiveness. Running this site is often like counting grains of sand. On a windy day. With my eyes closed. I appreciate your patience.
I was nailing down all the data I needed to discuss the ridiculous UV-filter fundraising/scam when I won another Chris lottery. Beware: if you ever decide to act the fool on the Internet, don’t send out group e-mails full of lies. And if you do, have the common sense and courtesy to use the bcc option. Jeez, Chris is so bad at this. It is a testament to innate human decency and the willingness of good people to trust that she ever made it to last summer without being well and truly outed. I have to get more ducks in a row and when I manage it, I plan to have a very fun-filled entry up, hopefully next week, followed by the UV-fund scam.
What a project this has been! I’ve been thinking about this and I have come to the conclusion that I may need to put an end date on this site, like the end of December of this year. On GOMI, a reader likened me to Javert, and while I waver on the “getting justice” part, I’ve always admitted to being obsessive with projects. If things keep happening like they are I will have ten books worth of content up on this site before it is all over. I have no idea if that is a good thing or not. It’s just that I find it all so galling and fascinating and interesting and infuriating that I find it hard to stop. I don’t want to end up jumping into the e-Seine, but, then again, I also don’t see Chris behaving nobly toward me and therefore forcing me to reconsider my values as a human being. But it’s an interesting comparison and one I should remember.
It’s just that when I see an end in site, I’m flattened by another Chris avalanche. With her one thing always leads to another. And another. In fact, this should be TAR’s official theme song:
Thanks again for y’all’s patience. Thanks a million to everyone who contacts me with leads and actual evidence of creepiness and wrong-doing. Let’s assemble back here next week for another of my too-wordy entries about Chris’ lunatic activities online!
Hey everyone! I hope you all had a great New Year and have great plans for 2014!
First thing I need to say is that I appreciate all the good will and kind wishes for my mother. I will have an update about her under the cut.
Second, I am so terribly behind on e-mails that I almost want to declare e-mail bankruptcy. I won’t go that far, so please know that if you have sent me an e-mail in the last four weeks, I will likely be replying tomorrow.
Third, let’s talk some site business.
Though I didn’t start this site to crusade for Chris Izer-B* to be held accountable, my position on that front has been wobbly lately. Mostly I want this site to be a simple clearinghouse of all the information about Chris, but, as anyone who reads here can plainly see, my entries are often not simple at all. I fully admit to being a woman who can become obsessed with a topic, needing to ferret out every detail, and it can make my entries labyrinthine. I hope to get some simple spreadsheets that link together Chris’ anti-social activities online soon because that will make it so much easier for newcomers to find all the details they need without wading through my novella-length entries.
I also need to let you all know that when I launched this site, I more or less neglected every other aspect of my online life and that will have to end. My conspiracy theory site all but died and I let my odd books site lay fallow for the most part. My odd books site is very important to me so I need to return to business as usual. I intend to have at least one meaty entry here up each month, with smaller entries as I can manage them, but this site is going to have to slow down as I begin work on my other sites.
Fourth, I need to assure readers that this site is not going to be neglected as I return to other writing endeavors. I may take longer to get information up, and when that happens I will also post general entries where people can communicate in the comments. There is a small but active community here and I want that community to remain strong as I figure out how to manage my time better.
Chris Izer-B* is small potatoes in the larger world. She’s a woman who has wrecked her family and her own life, though I know she doesn’t see it that way. She’s a small-time criminal who engages in emotional scams and even as she has stolen felony-level amounts of money via lies and fraud, she’s a piker compared to some other criminals. Yet I find her very interesting and will keep documenting her bizarre life choices as long as she continues to make them.
This site is not a crusade site and I don’t kid myself that much will ever happen to Chris legally, but this information needs to be up here so that every one unlucky enough to let this emotional vampire into his or her life can quickly find information about her. Chris will one day marry again – women like her seldom stand alone very long and I think this site has cramped her ability to scam money as much as she needs so she definitely is going to need a new husband/ATM soon – and maybe this site can help any new suitor know what he is getting into before he takes her on the second date. Or if she does manage to con another man into hitching his wagon to her latrine, when he discovers all the hidden credit card bills and notices that she goes to the ER weekly, perhaps this site can help him put the puzzle pieces together. Employers can hopefully see this site and determine whether or not Chris should be handling money or permitted around small children. And people who have been scammed by her can just engage in the schadenfreude that comes from reading as Chris is exposed in scam after scam. Schadenfreude is not the most noble emotion, to be sure, but in the absence of any real justice ever coming to Chris, I think it’s a reasonable reaction and can be fun as long as we keep our wits about us. I hope to have the very big UV-screen scam entry up this month, and a couple of scam comparison sheets up as well. We’ll see.
So to sum up: Mom info under the cut, will be replying to e-mails soon, need to work on other sites and TAR will slow a bit, but is definitely not going anywhere soon and hopefully will have some clearer ways of accessing data.
My mother is in the hospital so there will be no new entries here from me in 2013. I’m sort of sick of Chris anyway. I’m sure my curiosity will be restored once my life settles down but at the moment I find the prospect of discussing Chris Izer-B* nauseating at best.
I hope everyone has a safe holiday season and a great New Year. Let’s assemble back here, say the second week of January. Right about the time the post-holiday blues set in, I hope to have a new entry up. Be safe and be happy!
ETA: I just read some interesting potential Chris-sightings I received as e-mails. It’s both the holidays and my mom is sick but I will be getting back with y’all.
ETA2: A commenter has let me know Chris has returned to “volunteer” at Subaru School in Bakersfield. Details are down in the comments on this entry. That is so deeply disturbing to me. Subaru School must have such deep pockets they don’t fear lawsuits because I know the parents there are not happy about her being there. I had hoped this news meant that at least she was no longer leeching off the kind Christian family who took her in but it’s just a 30 minute drive from Keene to Bakersfield.
All these machinations. Two full time jobs would be less work but Chris lives for the con, for the drama, for the lies and for the bullshit.